The Mother of the Bride outfit and the Mother of the Groom outfit have equal prominence at a wedding these days. Tradition always dictated that the bride's father picked up the tab for his daughter's wedding, and this made the bride's mother a host with a range of duties on the day. The Mother of the Bride's role has changed over recent years as weddings have evolved into more lavish and very expensive functions. Today's function is normally a jointly funded occasion, where the parents of the bride and groom, as well as the couple themselves, all contribute to the costs of the wedding day. The Mother of the Bride's function and prominence is no less important than ever before, but as the number of items and suppliers for a wedding day has increased the duties and responsibilities have become shared with the Mother of the Groom - something that most couple's parents greatly appreciate!
The Bride and Groom's mothers are a prominent part of the day, but have broken away from the old constraints and now have much more balanced roles in organising the wedding and throughout the day itself. This means that both the Mother of the Bride and the Mother of the Groom have much more prominent and equal roles at the wedding and are both focused on by the guests over the day. Choosing an outfit for each of the mothers is extremely important, to fit the occasion and look and feel great throughout the marriage service, photographs and reception afterwards.
The mothers of the bride and groom will normally have a lot of contact in the months of planning prior to the wedding. Both sets of parents are closely involved in planning and arranging the whole day. This is a great opportunity to build up a friendship between the Mother of the Bride and the Mother of the Groom so whilst working together to make the wedding arrangements, you have the opportunity to discuss the wedding outfits.
Each mother will ultimately choose their own outfit, but friendly consultation between the Mother of the Bride, the Mother of the Groom as well as the bride will avoid extremities in styles. It should avoid choosing colours that may clash or, even worse, discovering that you have chosen exactly the same colour or outfits when you arrive at the wedding.
The ultimate rule for anyone attending a wedding is that your outfit should never up-stage the bride. Quite simply, white, cream and extremely pale pastels are not appropriate.
The Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom are both very much members of the wedding party. If your outfits are coordinated with the wedding party, and each other, yet retaining your individuality, then you should feel comfortable and confident and the whole picture will be balanced. One option is to choose (or include) a colour that coordinates with each other and the bridesmaids. You should choose a style and colouring that let's your individual beauty and natural colour come out.
As the Mother of the Bride or the Mother of the Groom you will effectively be playing the role of organiser as well as guest. Your wedding outfit will not only have to look good for your son or daughter's special and memorable day, but it will also have to work harder than most, as you rush around making sure that everything is working as it should for the wedding day.
Don't attempt anything too tight, or too restrictive for movement and bear in mind the amount of time you will spend on your feet when considering the right footwear to compliment your lovely outfit. If you take into account the practicalities as well as the aesthetics when choosing your outfit, not only will you look great on the day, you'll feel great too.
The most important person on the wedding day is the bride. The most important outfit for the wedding is the wedding dress. Most brides will have chosen their wedding dress months before the wedding date, and following this choice she will start to coordinate the bridesmaid's dresses and set the colour scheme for the bridal party. There will be lots of photographs taken at the wedding and the bride will want to have complimentary colours to make these balanced and compliment her chosen colour scheme. The Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom, although certainly not expected to dress as bridesmaids, can greatly assist by having outfits that compliment and won't clash with the bride's choices for her wedding.
The Bride and Groom's mothers should confer about dress lengths as well as colours. If you are able to agree on the length of dresses that you wear, it can avoid the extremes of one wearing an evening length gown, whilst the other is wearing a short skirt. You should also discuss the hats that you propose to wear, to determine if you intend to wear a hat to the wedding (not considered as essential in these modern times). Your corsage should compliment your outfits as well as the bride's bouquet and wedding colour scheme - easily done if you've followed the main colour scheme when making your choices.
Over the months of planning the wedding the Mother of the Bride and the Mother of the Groom will probably get to know each other. This can often be the foundations for a good and long-term friendship, and is the ideal situation for each of you to discuss your plans and desires for your wedding outfits. If you live close enough, you can spend some time discussing outfits over a coffee or lunch together. If you have the time, take the opportunity to go 'window shopping' together to discuss styles, outfits, colours, likes and dislikes - get a feel for what each of you wants for your wedding outfit and how you can coordinate, without clashing and whilst retaining your individuality.